Thomas “Tom” Ralph Barker

March 16, 1956 - December 7, 2021

Funeral Details:

It is with great sadness and heavy hearts that we say farewell to Thomas (Tom) Ralph Barker in his 66th year.  After a courageous battle with cancer, he bravely and peacefully left us on Tuesday, December 7, 2021 at Hospice Simcoe in Barrie, Ontario.

Tom married his high school sweetheart, Bonnie in 1981 and together they celebrated 40 years of marriage. He will be greatly missed by his wife. He is predeceased by his parents Ken and Dorothy Barker.  He will be sadly missed by his sisters Audrey (Dale) Plater, Shirley (Wayne) Cose, brother Paul, mother- in-law Millie Paddison, brother- in-laws Rod Paddison, Greg (Cindy) Paddison. Nieces Carrie (Bob) Plater, Kelly (Greg) Plater, Kim (Matt) Mulhall, Jennifer (Zenon) Cose, Rebecca Barker and nephews Steven (Samantha) Cose, Kurtis (Rebecca) Paddison, Gregory Buchanan.  Also survived by several great nieces and great nephews. Cherished friend of Brenda and Bill Kraft.

Tom grew up in Stayner, Ont. and moved to Barrie in 1981 where he worked until his retirement in 2015.

His will be missed for his great sense of humor, quick wit, love of music (the man had happy feet), his ability to find great deals and so much more.

He loved to play golf, travel and to refinish/ repurpose old furniture.

The family would like to thank Dr. B. Morris, Dr. A Dickson, nurses from St. Elizabeth’s (Lena and Debbie) and the staff at Hospice Simcoe for their continuous support, compassion, and care.

Cremation arrangements entrusted to Peaceful Transition, Barrie and condolences may be forwarded through

In memory of Tom, donations to Hospice Simcoe would be appreciated.



21 Condolences
  • Lori Martin
    Posted on: Wednesday, December 8, 2021 Reply

    So very sorry to hear this sad news.
    The battle was fought with hope and love. The love will remain, always.
    Thinking of you.

  • Suzanne M
    Posted on: Wednesday, December 8, 2021 Reply

    Sorry to hear about Tom my prayers are there for you all.

  • Michelle Quinn
    Posted on: Thursday, December 9, 2021 Reply

    Sending you so much love at this time Bonnie and family, Brenda and Bill. May the happy memories you have of Tom soon replace the pain and be of some comfort.
    Thinking of you,

  • Debbie and Dan Trudgeon
    Posted on: Thursday, December 9, 2021 Reply

    So sorry to hear. Tom was always up for a good time and so many laughs with his quick wit! He will be greatly missed! Sending love and hugs Bonnie to you and your family and all your friends. Take care my friend. Our thoughts are with you. ❤️

    Posted on: Thursday, December 9, 2021 Reply

    Thinking of you Bonnie, and your family, in your loss and wishing you strength and comfort at this difficult time.
    May every cherished memory of Tom bring you deep and lasting comfort in the days ahead.
    Take care my friend,
    Jackie Gibbons

  • Debbie chmara
    Posted on: Thursday, December 9, 2021 Reply

    It is with broken hearts that Jim and I send our deepest condolences. Tom was loved by so many and his charming smile, quick wit and gentle soul will be missed. Allow your friends and family to comfort you through this difficult time. You are so very loved Bonnie.

  • Audrey and Dale Plater
    Posted on: Thursday, December 9, 2021 Reply

    Thinking of all the good times we had
    Love you

  • Jewel Ann and Don
    Posted on: Sunday, December 12, 2021 Reply

    Our thoughts and prayers are with you Bonnie and all your family.
    Take good care.

  • Brenda and Ray Lisk
    Posted on: Monday, December 13, 2021 Reply

    We heard this sad news today….and can only imagine the loss you feel. You and Tom were like one soul…you knew each other’s next step. Hopefully the last months gave you lots of special moments together to treasure….and bring a smile when remembered. Big hugs and lots of love to you Bonnie, your family, Brenda and Bill and all the lucky people that have known Tom as a friend…..he is on the next stage of his blessed journey ❣

  • Dennis York
    Posted on: Monday, December 13, 2021 Reply

    So sorry to hear this sad news Bonnie. Thoughts and prayers to you and your family.
    Big Hugs

  • Sarah Morrison
    Posted on: Monday, December 13, 2021 Reply

    Thinking of you Bonnie and sending my condolences. I hope all the memories and antics that you two enjoyed will see you through this time of loss. Take care of yourself and may the love around you support you during the time ahead.

  • Mike Prosser
    Posted on: Monday, December 13, 2021 Reply

    Hello Bonnie,
    I’m so sorry to hear the sad news today. I have many happy memories of our youthful times together. Thinking of you both always brings a small to my face! Hoping your memories of Tom brings you happiness as well.

    Love and best wishes Bonnie ❤️.

  • Judy Daly
    Posted on: Tuesday, December 14, 2021 Reply

    Bonnie, no words just big HUGS.

  • Nellie and John Bradbury
    Posted on: Tuesday, December 14, 2021 Reply

    Thinking of you, Bonnie. Hoping that in time the memories of a life very well lived, and filled with love, will help ease the pain a little. Our thoughts also go out to Brenda and Bill – you all share a legacy of good times and happiness to draw on at this very sad time. Hugs to you all.

  • Stephanie Goguen
    Posted on: Tuesday, December 14, 2021 Reply

    Sending you our deepest condolences.

  • Kelly Poole
    Posted on: Tuesday, December 14, 2021 Reply

    No words we say can ease the loss. Condolences to you and your family Bonnie. Hugs my friend.

  • Samantha Howe
    Posted on: Tuesday, December 14, 2021 Reply

    I am so sorry to hear of your loss Bonnie, my thoughts are with you and condolences to the entire family

  • Lisa Hart
    Posted on: Tuesday, December 14, 2021 Reply

    I never had the pleasure of meeting Tom but heard many stories over the years from Bonnie and Brenda. I send my heart felt condolences to you Bonnie. You are in my thoughts. You have an amazing network of friends and family that love and cherish you. I feel for you all.

    Lisa 💕

  • Pamela Calverley
    Posted on: Tuesday, December 14, 2021 Reply

    So sorry to hear about Tom. Thinking about you Bonnie. You and Tom made so many beautiful memories together over your 40+ years. Hoping that these memories will help you in the coming days. Pam

  • Marie Plummer
    Posted on: Thursday, December 16, 2021 Reply

    I am having trouble finding words. My heartfelt condolences to you and your family. Remember the shenanigans that Tom, yourself, Brenda and Bill got up to in your many travels. I always looked forward to hearing the stories when you all returned from the trips.
    Love and hugs, Marie

  • Keith and Dianne Reasbeck
    Posted on: Friday, December 17, 2021 Reply

    Bonnie…Your loss is immeasurable, but so are the memories left behind!

    In this time of sorrow, we’re reflecting on the countless good times we shared in our younger years! Camping, Friday nights at the drive-in, parties, and so so many double dates!
    Support in our weddings, the Gremlin, and it was perhaps the Avening Hall where Tom first found his happy feet? When Tom was present, good times prevailed! He made us laugh, and we treasure those good times!

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